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 Failure is simply the option to begin again, this time more intelligently
Week 8: Following through 
Eight weeks into the year and here I am still starting over with some of my goals. Between injury and too much celebrating, I have been unable to find consistency or follow through with a few of the changes I was seeking in the New Year. 
As my motivation dwindles, mindless chatter steps in...

 
February: Curiosity
Week 7: Getting Curious...
There are always opportunities to change who we are. Slowly, with age we are transforming without even trying. But there are also ways for us to participate in our own metamorphosis. By creating new habits or kicking an old habit, each day we wake with a clean slate of choices where we get to decide who we want to be.
For many years while angry...

 You can't rush your healing. Darkness has its teachings  ~ Trevor Hall
February: Curiosity
Week 6: Lessons from loss
For many years loss seemed to dominate my life. The death of Ryan 28 years ago (almost 29) when I was twenty-eight years old, is a loss I will never stop grieving. I grieve the wonder of who he could have been, as well as the memories we will never get to make. His loss leaves...

Little by little, day by day, what is meant for you will find it's way... 
February – Curiosity
Week 5: One day at a time
Any change in our lives happens one day at a time. My toughest lesson of one day at a time arrived with grief. When I lost my son Ryan, I was young, naïve, and completely crushed by grief. Unable to wrangle how this could happen and finding little information on how...

Never break a promise to yourself 
Week 4: Keeping promises
Any new habit is a change in your lifestyle. While a goal can lead us in a new direction. It is not a destination to reach but instead, the transformation of who you want to become. When creating a new habit, look for a habit loop, trigger or anchor that provides accountability. Don’t leave forbidden foods on the counter, or in...

You're stronger than you know  
Week 3: Making a promise to myself
Why don't we follow through for ourselves? If I promise a friend that I will be there, I show up, yet often with my own goals I let myself down, as if a promise to myself does not hold as much meaning? Over time this pattern of not following through makes us skeptics of our own ability prompting us to give up before we begin.
As...

Redesign your life so that the actions that matter most are also the actions that are easiest to do
Week 2: The power of habits (good and bad) 
From drinking more water or drinking less alcohol, the use of habits can transform our lives. Eliminating bad habits like quitting smoking or starting a good habit like meditation, can help us thrive in positive ways. Often when I want to create...

 We spend January 1st walking through our lives, room-by-room, drawing up a list of work to be done, cracks to be patched. Maybe this year, to balance the list, we ought to walk through the rooms of our lives… not looking for flaws, but for potential.
Resolve to... 
Week 1:  Lessons in change
One of the biggest, most difficult and life changing habits that transformed my life was quitting smoking....

Scattering Kindness in Memory of Ryan
"It's not what you gather, but instead what you scatter that tells what kind of life you lived"
Over the last couple years it has become more difficult to see the good. With so much negative information, so much divide, I barely turn on the news. Family and friends do not trust that there are many kind people left.  But still, I remain steady in my quest...

Losing Ryan
When I write about the loss of Ryan, I share stories for both myself and to offer a glimpse inside the life of the bereaved. I will never know Ryan beyond the age of 5, yet today I will honor his 34th birthday with acts of kindness. 
Grief does not magically disappear with the passage of time. The loss of our son carries a constant vacancy we are left to imagine. I was only twenty-eight...